Sometimes you really gotta check yourself and remember—other people’s opinions don’t mean a damn thing. Folks are so gullible, they’ll believe whatever’s blowing in the wind that day. So easily swayed. If my heart wasn’t in the right place, I’d be a billionaire just off people being that naive. It’s wild, honestly. Try to help them and they’ll come at you like you’re the enemy. Most don’t want the truth—they just want comfort, even if it’s killing them slowly.
Tag: willpower
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Seems like every time you scroll through social media, someone’s out here trying to define what a “real man” is. And depending on who you ask, you’ll get a dozen different takes. Most of the time, it’s just people getting defensive—trying to validate themselves by saying whatever they bring to the table is what makes a real man.
But one thing I’ve noticed? You hardly ever hear people say a real man is someone with discipline, character, and a solid moral compass. It always goes straight to money or status like that’s the end-all-be-all.
Here’s the thing: a man with discipline, strong character, and values? He’s likely gonna find his way to success—including money. But the money doesn’t make the man. A criminal can make money. That doesn’t make him a real man.
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You’ve got to get comfortable with failing or facing rejection. It’s one of the biggest things that holds people back from achieving big things. And honestly, I get it—nobody likes being told “no” over and over. It’s tough. But one thing life has taught me is this: the people who fail the most are the ones who win the most. The ones who avoid failure? They never win. Personally, I’d rather take a bunch of losses and win a few times than sit on the sidelines and never even get in the game.
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You’ve got more control over your happiness than you think—it’s true. Don’t believe me? Try this: next time you’re at a sporting event, decide ahead of time that you’re there just to soak in the atmosphere and enjoy the game, no matter who wins. By the end, you’ll feel good because you set the expectation for yourself, and it worked. It’s way better than pinning your happiness on your team winning, because let’s face it—what if they don’t? Don’t give that kind of power to anyone else. You’re the one in charge of your happiness. Own it. Make it happen.
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Sometimes you gotta sit back and realize that you’ve been the only one fucking yourself up. I know it’s tough to point the finger at yourself, but blaming others is lame as hell. I aim to take fault even if I know it wasn’t completely my fault. I still could’ve done something to change the outcome for the better. It gives me a sense of control—and I fuckin’ like control. -
It’s disheartening to see how many people have such low standards for themselves—so low, in fact, that they take pride in it. They wear those low standards like a badge of honor, embracing them until someone “above” them dares to criticize their way of life. Suddenly, they’re offended by others’ opinions, even though they were once so proud of their choices. It’s a shame, really.
What’s happening now is that it’s becoming trendy to be complacent with failure. People are encouraging others to give up, yet in the same breath, they’ll mock someone who’s actually trying and failing. It’s a sad, messed-up world we live in. Surround yourself with positive influences, and steer clear of those who perpetuate negativity.
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Ever wonder why so many people just follow the crowd? It’s not because they’re smart. The truth is, most people are like sheep—they’ll abandon their own values and beliefs just to fit in. Personally, I’ve never had low enough self-esteem to simply go along with what everyone else is doing, but I get it. I used to be super tribal when it came to sports, too. But as I grew up, I realized that many of the people who were all in on it, or fans in general, were struggling with low self-esteem. They rely on external things to dictate how they feel about themselves and their mood. It’s kind of sad when you think about it.The key is to stand on your own two feet and do your own thing. There’s nothing wrong with loving sports, but when all you’re doing is beating your chest or talking trash about it, you’re really just admitting that you’re only comfortable when it’s about things you have no control over. Do better.
Note: Substitute sports with anything else external. It’s all the same.
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We all have big goals and dreams (or at least I hope we do). We set schedules, make to-do lists, and do whatever we can to inch closer to those goals.
It’s totally normal not to check off every single item on your list. When planning, it feels great to jot down everything you want to accomplish. But let’s be real—there are days when you know you won’t get to it all. Even if you’ve made progress, it’s easy to get down on yourself for what’s left undone.
You’re not a superhero; you’re human. Be realistic when planning your day, week, or even your year. Don’t pile on more than you can handle. Willpower has its limits—you will run out of steam eventually, no matter how much you tell yourself otherwise.
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Do you ever feel like you’re stuck, not where you thought you’d be in life? You’re grinding hard, but nothing seems to move forward? Trust me, I’m right there with you. It’s frustrating when so much of your success feels tied to external forces—whether it’s a tough job market, AI screening your resume, or just bad luck. You’re going to have bad days, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: keep showing up and fighting every single day. Sooner or later, something great will happen. Don’t quit. Keep fighting.
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